How can parents give useful advice without making the final decision?
First ask what the student values and what is causing uncertainty, then help organize the benefits, burdens, and information needed for each option. Parents can share their experience and views with reasons, using wording such as “I would think about it this way,” but should avoid imposing a conclusion and leave the student time and an opportunity to decide. They can continue supporting preparations and sources of advice after the decision.
Key points
- Begin by listening to the student’s wishes and concerns.
- Provide information for comparing options and distinguish facts from the parent’s opinion.
- Ask questions such as “What do you think?” and leave the final judgment to the student.
- Offer practical support after the decision.